Set Intentions. Release Expectations.
Instead of having expectations on how your love life should be, set intentions. Intentions open up perspectives and possibilities that better support you on your journey to love. You’ll travel with more ease without the internal struggle and judgment of having to have things be a certain way. Intentions soothe your soul because you’re able to be with what is. Intentions are more flexible because you’re open to receiving what you’re supposed to have for where you are on your life’s path.
Set an intention by being clear on what you want and being detached from the outcome. Don’t be concerned with “how” things are going to happen. When you’re clear on what you want, then behave and take action in ways that support your heart’s desire, your results may be even better than you could have imagined. For instance, if you clearly want to be treated like a lady, leave your masculine energy at work and tap into your feminine traits in your love life. Do this consistently and great results will happen naturally.
Do You Have Expectations or Intentions?
Here are some ways to determine whether you have expectations or intentions.
You have expectations when you’re:
- Holding tightly to your point of view
- Unable or unwilling to see the other person’s perspectives
- Feelings are draining you (e.g. unhappy, disappointed, depressed, etc.)
- Closed off to someone for superficial reasons
- Wanting things to happen a certain way
- Trying to control your partner (or the outcome)
- Not able to lighten up about love
- Looking to someone else to fulfill your unmet needs
You have intentions when you:
- Would rather be loved than right
- Feel open and inspired
- Have a sense of freedom
- Have faith that all is and will be well
- Don’t take things too seriously
- Are open to learning and making improvements from within
- Are open to the outcome
Shift from Expectations to Intentions
Setting intentions doesn’t happen naturally. I make a conscious effort to set intentions in certain situations to keep from falling into expectations. I’m hopeful that in time and with practice, intentions will come more naturally to me.
My intention for you is that you practice shifting from expectations to intentions. I promise that when you consistently set intentions, you’ll notice a big improvement in love. What are three intentions you can set for your love life?
