Power of Setting Intentions

Set Intentions. Release Expectations.

Instead of having expectations on how your love life should be, set intentions. Intentions open up perspectives and possibilities that better support you on your journey to love. You’ll travel with more ease without the internal struggle and judgment of having to have things be a certain way. Intentions soothe your soul because you’re able to be with what is. Intentions are more flexible because you’re open to receiving what you’re supposed to have for where you are on your life’s path.

Set an intention by being clear on what you want and being detached from the outcome. Don’t be concerned with “how” things are going to happen. When you’re clear on what you want, then behave and take action in ways that support your heart’s desire, your results may be even better than you could have imagined. For instance, if you clearly want to be treated like a lady, leave your masculine energy at work and tap into your feminine traits in your love life. Do this consistently and great results will happen naturally.

Do You Have Expectations or Intentions?

Here are some ways to determine whether you have expectations or intentions.

You have expectations when you’re:

• Holding tightly to your point of view
• Unable or unwilling to see the other person’s perspectives
• Feelings are draining you (e.g. unhappy, disappointed, depressed, etc.)
• Closed off to someone for superficial reasons
• Wanting things to happen a certain way
• Trying to control your partner (or the outcome)
• Not able to lighten up about love
• Looking to someone else to fulfill your unmet needs

You have intentions when you:

• Would rather be loved than right
• Feel open and inspired
• Have a sense of freedom
• Have faith that all is and will be well
• Don’t take things too seriously
• Are open to learning and making improvements from within
• Are open to the outcome

Shift from Expectations to Intentions

Setting intentions doesn’t happen naturally. I make a conscious effort to set intentions in certain situations to keep from falling into expectations. I’m hopeful that in time and with practice, intentions will come more naturally to me.

My intention for you is that you practice shifting from expectations to intentions. I promise that when you consistently set intentions, you’ll notice a big improvement in love. What are three intentions you can set for your love life?

The Simple Things.

I am happy when I eat fresh fruit, when my brother tells a silly joke, when I finish a good book, or when my dogs welcome me home. I am happy  when the waves are good, when the sun is out,  when my parents make their famous cowboy cookies and when I wake up early enough to see the sunrise. 

I'm grateful for my loving family, my supportive friends, kind people, smiling, and the opportunities I have. 

I love being able to get in my car and be at the beach in 10 minutes,  I love the ability to travel, I love waking up a having a hot cup of coffee. Im blessed to have access to clean water, to be able to vote, to have access to healthcare, and the freedom speech.

 There are so many little things that make life so simple and easy. I will always love the simple things and cherish them more then anything bad or toxic. I don't have time to be sad or ungrateful; no, I have every reason to be happy. 

I am happy. 

Cherish the simple things. 

Decide

"So, do it. Decide. 

Is this the life you want to live?

 Is this the person you want to love? 

Is this the best you can be? 

Can you be stronger? Kinder? More compassionate? 

Decide. 

Breathe in. Breathe out and decide.”

The Ones

Stay with the ones who make you feel good. 

Stay with the ones who give you energy and give you hope. 

The ones with no drama or toxicity in their lives.

 The ones that start postive conversations and exit negative ones. 

The ones who would rather dream with you, then gossip with you. 

These are the people who are going places. 

These are the people you want to be by your side. 

Fear, Love & Vulnerability

I have been thinking alot about fear lately. 

How fear dictates one's life experience. 

 I have been looking at myself and doing some self reflecting on what I can do to live more and fear less.

I have been challenging myself to do one thing a day the truly scares me. 

Today I realized what my biggest fear is....the fear of being vulnerable. 

To me being vulnerable has always seemed like a weakness, a bad thing.

However, although my fear of being vulnerable has made me a strong and independent woman, it has also made me big huge walls around my heart. 

My fear has blocked me from really connecting to people on a soulful level. 

Because to truly connect with someone. To truly love someone, you have to be vulnerable. You have to be open and willing to bare your soul to them. You have to be willing to get your heart broken, get rejected and get hurt. 

That freaking scares me. 

But I got to face my fears. 

Rebel with Kindness & Joy

I have always been a little bit of a rebel. 

Never wanted to confirm to the status quo.

 I didn't want to be a sheep. 

When I was young, I rebeled by dying my hair, dressing different, and being angry at "the man."

As I grow older, I'm still a rebel, but form of rebellion has metamorphosized.

 I now rebel with joy and kindness as my form of social rebellion. In this cut throat world of every man for himself, being joyful and kind, is a form of rebellion. And you know what,

It's feel so good.  I feel I am making a positive difference in the world just by being kind and spreading joy. 

 So I encourage you, if you are feeling  restrained by the social constraints of society, you don't need to rebel with negativity or hate. Rebel with joy and kindness. 

It is the best form of rebellion. 

Love you all. 

Humble and Kind

Humble and Kind
-Tim McGraw

You know there's a lot that goes by the front door
Don't forget the keys under the mat
Childhood stars shine, always stay humble and kind
Go to church 'cause your momma says to
Visit grandpa every chance that you can
It won't be a waste of time
Always stay humble and kind
Hold the door say please say thank you
Don't steal, don't cheat, and don't lie
I know you got moutains to climb but
Always stay humble and kind
When the dreams you're dreamin' come to you
When the work you put in is realized
Let yourself feel the pride but
Always stay humble and kind
Don't expect a free ride from no one
Don't hold a grudge or a chip and here's why
Bitterness keeps you from flying
Always stay humble and kind
Know the difference between sleeping with someone
And sleeping with someone you love
I love you ain't no pick up line so
Always stay humble and kind
Hold the door say please say thank you
Don't steal, don't cheat, and don't lie
I know you got moutains to climb but
Always stay humble and kind
When those dreams you're dreamin' come to you
When the work you put in is realized
Let yourself feel the pride but
Always stay humble and kind
When it's hot, eat a root beer, a popsicle
Shut off the AC and roll the windows down
Let that summer sun shine
Always stay humble and kind
Don't take for granted the love this life gives you
When you get where you're goin'
Don't forget turn back around
Help the next one in line
Always stay humble and kind.

Songwriters: Lori Mckenna

I hope You Find

I hope you find the kind of happiness that exists on your own terms. I hope you truly take the time to figure out what moves you, what encourages your soul, what you deeply crave in life, and I hope you have the courage to chase that. I hope you have the courage to believe that you are deserving of everything you desire......

Living with Integrity

I have been thinking about integrity a lot lately. 

I have witness people lie to my face or pretend to be someone they are not. They are living lies. Lying to others and themselves.

 This saddens me.

 It saddens me to think that people think they have to lie or manipulate others in an attempt to be liked, accepted, etc. 

It's sad to think that people are willing to do things that are ethically wrong because no one is watching or, worse, because everyone else is participating in the act. 

I don't get it. 

I guess I was just not raised that way. 

I am the same person in public as I am in private. 

My motives are pure and I live with truth and integrity

 I sleep well at night because I have stayed true to my morals and myself. 

Each day, Every moment, every choice. 

I strive to do the righteous thing. 

I choose to do the right thing despite what is popular, cool, or the norm. 

I choose to the right thing even if it's not fun, even if it's boring, or if it's hard. 

It's how I live my life. True to myself. I live with integrity.

 

I AM HERE

I am here. 

I have the courage to believe that matters. 

I have the strength to make a difference....to be different. 

Even with an empty hand, I have the means to give. I am free to become...to fail...to learn.

I have the advantage of hope. 

I have the opportunity to love...to be loved. 

I have the wisdom to know it is all a gift....all. 

When I make a decision on how I am going to live this day, and it is a decision,

I joyfully, responsibility, gratefully, face the world and say, "I am here.'

Be A Tornado

You don't have to move mountains

Simply fall in love with life.

Be a tornado of happiness, gratitude and acceptance. 

You will change the world just by being a warm,

Kind hearted human being. 

-Anita Krizzan 

Fear Not

I was at a coffee shop this morning when I saw a quote on the blackboard

"Do one thing everyday that scares you."

Like most people, fear has kept me from doing many things. Things both big and small. 

Today I vow to challenge myself each day to do something I am afraid of.

Kindness

kind·ness

the state or quality of being kind; a kind act

bad·ass
to be uncompromising; to be tough

un·compromising
showing an unwillingness to make concessions with others or to be relentless

tough
strong enough to withstand adverse conditions or rough or careless handling
strong enough to withstand adverse conditions or rough or careless handling

Stand up

I have be hoping
That you weren't to hurt
To pick yourself up 

I sit here hoping
That you haven't forgotten
Your true worth

I'm here writing this
To you in hopes
That it will reach you in time
Because my heart seems
To have taken investment
Into someone I don't even know

And deep down I really hope
That you'll read this
And realize that you are better
Without the people who hurt you. 

Written by r. h. Sin

It happens...

And then it happens... One day you wake up and you are in this place. You are in this place where Everything feels right. Your heart is calm. Your soul is lit. Your thoughts are positive. Your vision is clear. You are at peace, at peace with where you have been, at peace with what you have been through and at peace with where you are headed.

Miracle worker

A miracle worker is an artist of the soul. There’s no higher art than living a good life. An artist informs the world of what’s available behind the masks we all wear. That’s what we’re all here to do. The reason so many of us are obsessed with becoming stars is because we’re not yet starring in our own lives. The cosmic spotlight isn’t pointed at you; it radiates from within you.

What you think. You become.

"Your mind is everything. What you think, you become."

Fill your head with positive thoughts and positive ideas and your life will flourish. Your subconscious mind is more powerful then you know.

L.O.V.E

Your task is not to seek love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it. 

Continue to evolve

Continue to grow, continue to change, their are no limits on the amount of times you transform yourself. Keep changing, evolving until you are truly happy and whole. 

Be proactive with life.

"If you inherently long for something, become it first. If you want gardens, become the gardener. If you want love, embody love. If you want mental stimulation, change the conversation. If you want calm, excel peace. If you want your world to be filled with artists, begin to paint. If you want to live in ecstatically, find the ecstasy in yourself. This is how to daw it in, day by day, inch by inch. Mirror what you admire. 

I'm living my Best Life

Right now, I'm just living my best life. I am focused on myself. I'm falling in love with who I am. I'm excited about where I'm headed, and I'm excited about what's next. I have so many goals, so many dreams, so much ambition, and I'm constantly finding new passions. I am learning to be spontaneous. I am learning to take risks. And I'm trying to step out of my comfort zone. 

You see...right know I am chasing things that make me happy. I'm chasing things that feed my soul. And I could care less what anyone else thinks. Because right know, my life is full of so much peace. So much light. So much faith. And so much hope. And right know I am living my best life and there is nothing anyone can do to stop me from doing that. 

5 People

You are the most like the five people you spend the most time with.

 I find that I often want to help people. Im a fixer. I some how end up attracting to people that I want to help and fix. My ex boyfriend, my best friend, etc. All were people who were unhappy and I felt like I could make them happy....turn out people are hard to fix.

You are most like the 5 people you spend the most time with.

It was not until I distance myself from the downers that I realize what an impact they had on me. I wasn't fixing them...they were draining me.  Looking back I see I had become more like them...I was unhappy.

You are most like the 5 people you spend the most time with. 

I have learned that you need to surround yourself with people who lift you up. People who inspire you. People who make you feel alive.

You are the most like the 5 people you spend the most time with. 

Surround yourself with happiness and you will be happy.

Its simple as the law of averages.

Because you are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with. 

Make those 5 amazing :) 

Choice

You are being presented with a choice: 

evolve or remain.

 If you choose to evolve, you will connect with the strength within you, you will explore what lies outside the comfort zone, you will awaken to love, you will become, you will be. 

You have everything you need. Choose to evolve. Choose love.

Personal Evolution

Personal Evolution Within Your Lifetime

"Consciousness is destiny. Instead of being dictated to by your genes and chemical processes in the brain, it may turn out that you are the author of your own life -- capable of change, healing, creativity and personal transformation."

I was recently told by a mentor of mine that growing up is a choice.

Age is just a number and does not mean one is more mature.

Yes. I know everyone says this but it has never been so obvious then in the people I interact with daily. People in their late 40s with children, still stuck in the mind set of a middle school. 

Maturity, growth, and evolving, are a person choice and one must consciously work on it. 

Her wisdom has inspired me to dig deeper into ways to evolve myself. 

Below is an excerpt from an old article I found discussing ways to better yourself. I urge you to read. And I challenge you to work on evolving your personal self. 

Five Ways To Evolve Within Your Lifetime

Research shows you can evolve during your own lifetime

Posted Mar 28, 2011

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-new-resilience/201103/five-ways-evolve-within-your-lifetime%3famp

Stretching towards new challenges

When you challenge yourself to stretch towards a higher level of your abilities, you also increase your overall well-being. Interestingly, this research demonstrates the power of having a vision of what you want to stretch your capacities and abilities towards. Holding a vision of possibility in your consciousness tends to pulls you towards it. Research shows that your actions that follow lead to noticeably increased happiness with your life.Other studies indicate that people who consciously build positive emotions, such as empathy and compassion, also increase their resilience in the face of new challenges.

Seeding well-being in yourself and others

What goes around, comes around. Studies at UC Berkeley and elsewhere find that when people consciously behave generously and compassionately towards others, they become more valued and esteemed by others, in return. And, that this, in turn, contributes to the common good.

Behaving "outside the box"

There's evidence that you can evolve by choosing to behave in ways that are different from -- even counter to -- what you think of as your usual or "fixed" personality traits and characteristics. That is, you can evolve by acting more like the person you want to be. This isn't faking; it's pushing yourself outside the box of your usual "self," and bringing your behavior into alignment with a picture of what those new features would look like if you demonstrate them. 

One Morning I woke up different

One Morning I woke up different.

And I never looked back :)